Mother is left horrified after catching her babysitter BREASTFEEDING her baby – but the nanny insisted she was just ‘saving the baby from chemicals’ that are found in formula
- US mother thought she found the perfect nanny for adopted baby daughter
- One day arrived to pick up her daughter early from the woman’s home
- She told the Slate’s Dear Prudence column she caught woman nursing her baby
- Provider said she was saving the baby from chemicals and asked to be thanked
A working mother has told of her horror at catching one of her baby daughter’s babysitters breastfeeding her when she went to collect her from daycare.
Writing to Slate’s advice column Dear Prudence, the unnamed mother, who is based in the US, explained she had found an ‘amazing’ woman who takes care of children in her own home to look after her adopted baby daughter.
The woman had two children of her own, one just a little older than the mother’s baby daughter, and seemed like a perfect choice.
The only hiccup was an incident where the carer stated her disapproval for formula, saying: ‘You feed her that slop?’
Then, one day two months later, the mother came to collect her child early and discovered the caregiver breastfeeding her baby.
The provider failed to understand what the problem was, claiming she was ‘saving the baby from chemicals,’ and said the distressed mother ought to thank her.
An unnamed mother from the US was left shocked when she arrived to pick her daughter up early from daycare, to find the babysitter breastfeeding her child (stock image)
Explaining the situation, the mother wrote: ‘The only bump in the road was on the first day when I pulled out the formula and bottles, and she wrinkled her nose and said, “You feed her that slop?”
‘I ignored the barb (I’m used to it), gave a quick rundown, and went on my way.’
The mother went to work every day for two months, but recently she made a discovery that left her horrified.
‘I got off work early and decided to pick up my daughter early. There is a side door where parents can enter without knocking, so I did that,’ she said.
A mother handing money to a babysitter. The mother discovered her nanny had been breastfeeding her child when she got off from work early one Friday night. Stock image
But when she went up to the provider to get her baby, she was shocked to find out the woman had been nursing her baby.
‘When I got to the area of the house where my daughter was, I about fell over. The day care provider was NURSING MY BABY!’
The mother confronted the care provider right away: ‘I marched over, took the baby from her arms, and asked her if she was crazy.’
The shocked mother is now trying to figure out what to do. She said bringing her daughter back to the same place is out of the question.
Why it’s dangerous to share breast milk
Sharing breast milk is a risky business for several reasons, including infections hygiene and possible allergies.
1. Breast milk becomes different as the baby ages: When a child is born, a mother’s body will produce colostrum, a form of liquid gold that helps build a child’s immunity and keep them full until the milk comes in. A mother’s breast milk changes as her baby ages in order to give it fat and nutrients for a child at their particular stage of life. It’s possible because the mother’s body knows what her baby needs.
2. Breast milk depends on gender: A girl and a boy won’t get the same nutrients and they develop at a different pace.
3. Emotional attachment comes with breastfeeding: Breastfeeding allows for a special bond between mother and child thanks to skin-to-skin connection. Sharing breast milk can create difficulties.
4. Pumping equipment is not always properly sanitised; These need to be sanatised to prevent infections and illness, but a mistake can quickly happen.
5. A mother milk supply decreases: Some mother may need some help when they don’t supply enough milk for their baby, but milk sharing makes that milk production even smaller.
6. You can’t always know who’s donating the milk: In the instance where the milk was donated or sold to a mother by a stranger, there’s no way of knowing what’s in the milk.
7. Infections can spread through breast milk: The common cold may be ok, but other infections can spreads through a mother’s breast milk to another woman’s baby.
8. Milk banking association are safer: These associations are better regulated thanks to interviews about donors’ lifestyles and habits.
9. Breast milk can contain allergens.
10. Some women are paid to give their breast milk, which can lead to dishonest behaviour.
11. Some women dilute the milk they donate.
12. Milk for sharing can contain prescription drugs that are unsafe for children.
‘Obviously, I am not sending my daughter back there, but should I report her to the umbrella company she is under for home day cares, or should I make a huge blast on social media?’
The mother was also advised by a relative to contact the parents of other children attending the day care center so that they could do their own checks, but said she thought this ‘might be too much.’
The agony aunt was equally horrified, and advised her to report the day care provider right away.
‘This is a huge breach of trust, a total violation, and absolutely worth reporting […] she should absolutely be reported for this.’